A lot of people’s goal in 2021 is to make themselves happier. This is completely understandable given the year that we’ve all just had, and there are certain things that you can do to make this goal more achievable. It might not feel like it right now, but you are in control of your life and your happiness, so you’re the one who is going to have to make the changes if you want to see a difference. Down below, we’re going to be taking a look at some of the ideas that we have to make this goal a reality. Keep reading if you would like to find out more.

Cut Out Toxic People

The first thing that we are going to mention is the fact that you should be cutting out toxic peoplewherever possible. The issue with toxic people is that they are going to ruin your self-esteem, and any happiness that you may have built up in your life. They won’t do it outright though, there are going to be things that they say or do that feel little, but will have the biggest impact. Do you have someone in mind right now based on what we have just said? Well, they’ve got to go.

You might think that this isn’t possible as they are a member of your family or someone that you have known for a long while. Don’t let this be an excuse, and cut them off sooner rather than later. Nobody gets an automatic place in your life, and if they are bringing toxicity to it, they shouldn’t be there.

Feel Beautiful

Another thing that you’re going to want to do is feel beautiful. If you don’t have much self confidence, then you’re going to need to find the motivation to change this. You do not have to change a thing about yourself to achieve this goal now, but you do need to change your mindset. 

However, using things such as cruelty free skin care products from Dose of Colors could help you along the way. If you’re already using beauty products, then switching to these isn’t going to harm you in any way. You still get to feel beautiful, but you are also contributing to less cruelty throughout the world.

Eat A Better Diet

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https://www.healthline.com/nutrition/healthy-eating-tips

Finally, you are what you eat. No, not literally, but figuratively. When you put processed foods that are full of fats and sugars into your body, you are going to feel sluggish and all-around bad. But, if you are giving your body the nutrients that it needs, you’re going to feel fantastic. Think about your diet, and consider what changes you could make that will make you feel better.

We hope that you have found this article helpful, and now see some of the things that you can do to make yourself happier in 2021. If you’re dedicated to having a better year than you had last year, then it’s going to happen. These are just some of the things that you can try, but obviously, this is not an extensive list.

https://www.healthline.com/nutrition/healthy-eating-tips

Breathe ME..

Help, I have done it again

I have been here many times before

Hurt myself again today
 

And the worst part is there’s no one else to blame



Be my friend, hold me 


Wrap me up,  unfold me,

 I am small, and needy

Warm me up, and breathe me


-Lyrics from Sia, Breathe Me

I heard these lyrics years ago.  Before I even began my Recovery Journey.  After researching the singer, Sia I found many similarities with mental health and addiction and could understand her story and I could emphathize… 

A word, as a action verb we breathe to live. We breathe for survival. We breathe for the air to fill our lungs and recycle as we exhale.  This word, Breathe, on so many levels it is symbolic and has meaning to every single one of us.  I was speaking to my sponsor the other day, and she said, Just stop, just breathe.  Deep inhale, deep exhale.  Breathe.  Slow Down.  Breathe… Then, like clockwork the tears start to flow and I am able to release, to breathe and let go…

You May think what do I need to let go of…. A lot. My conception rather my irrational perception of what I can take care of; who I can direct or rather redirect; when people, places and things are supposed to happen… you get it, right?  The breathing rather exhaling of all that I cant control.. The inhaling of peace in knowing who I see looking back in the mirror at me, that is who I have the best chance to control.  Her… and more times that not, her, she, me is so stubborn to even take time to breathe. yes the one who wants to handle and direct everyone around her’s breathing and not consider taking care of her own.  Sigh…are you breathing in what I am saying?  Of course you are. One day at a time.  A term Ive embraced and a term I have hated. You know it is so easy to tell everyone around me what I think will work, what I think can be fixed, and give you a set of blueprints hot off the press outlining the work you need to do for yourself. 

I look at my life, and you know when we happen to speak about lungs, they talk about the trunks, the branches just like a Family Tree…. Follow me now on this….

We have the family tree…It has the roots that are deeply grounded those date back to a long history of the blood line that brought you here.  Was there mental health issues, were they alcoholics? Did they endur life scarring trauma? Ok, so after the roots working our way up, next are the branches….You have 2 sides, and most families have at least 4 sides with divorce and re-marriages, relationships etc… so off of these branches you appear.  You are here, and now you are breathing probably a sigh that you have made it this far, right?  You see, we get here, and start our own branches…you, like those before you have become the root.  Looking at your life with honestly, are you the root problem or are you the root solution?

Breathe…I know it is a lot to take in….

I think for me and one of the reasons I love helping and working with others is finding the underlying history for the reason our paths have crossed…. maybe you need oxygen for the leaves to grow again.  Maybe you need sunshine to help get you growing again.  Maybe you just need to sit down face to face and sigh… a breathe of relief…We are here… Pursuit of Recovery… to breathe, to sigh and to exhale the BS so our lungs can be filled with peace, love and serenity…. 

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Every experience in your life was absolutely necessary in order to have gotten you to the next place, and the next place up to this very moment. – Wayne Dyer

I knew this was the best quote for this blog, especially with the Starfish themed picture that went along with it.

When I think about the phrase: “All good things must come to an end”  I think, “No, good things bring memories that can never be removed from the mind, We will all experience a “Season” so that we can learn, live and grow”. I looked up the phrase and this is what I found: 

All good things must come to an end is a proverb that means nothing lasts forever, all things and situations are temporary, or happiness is fleeting. It may be used to express regret when something that brings you happiness ends. The expression all good things must come to an end is an admonishment to enjoy your life today, because that happiness may not exist tomorrow. However, it is well to remember it is also true that bad things come to an end, not just good things. The idea contained in the expression all good things must come to an end originated with Geoffrey Chaucer, who wrote in his poem, Troilus and Criseyde: “But at the laste, as every thing hath ende, She took hir leve, and nedes wolde wende.”

 I look at Faith at the Beach as being something not only I needed, but those around me needed. God’s Timing was impeccable as always. I was coming out of 20 plus years of substance abuse, shame, guilt, pain, anxiety. Ecclesiastes 3:14 it tells us ~I know that everything God does will endure forever….~

  Faith at the Beach gave me the outlet to publicly and personally apologize to myself and others.  I blogged everyday for a full year in 2012.  I was able to express in 365 ways how my life was affected more importantly my family’s life was damaged by my personal choices that more times than not were exacerbated by substance abuse.  Now, I need you to know, I have never blamed my behaviors on the actual addiction, but used the drugs and alcohol as a crutch to get through days more so than not.   We are given 24 hours a day to live, breath, learn and grow.  I would call this a gift, the PRESENT from my Higher Power, in which I claim is the God of my understanding.  I was raised Southern Baptist intertwined with Methodist teachings and knew who God was, and I am grateful. For many years  I just chose to use the excuse that “God” was mad because of my behaviors so that seemed to be the best lie to tell myself as I continued in my not so healthy lifestyle.

My “dis-ease” started way before I picked up the alcohol at 14.  It started with my behaviors.  The lying; scheming;  bucking of authority (parents, teachers and anyone telling me what to do). It was the people pleasing; acting out for attention with my peers; I didn’t know where I even fit in with this world until my late 30’s.  Thank you God for this gift now as I know who I am, and what I am here for on this earth and that is to help anyone and everyone who wants help to live a Recovery Lifestyle! 

Faith at the Beach was then established as a non-profit. We also created the Kelly Gorman Watson Women’s Center. We raised money through 4 5K’s, and 2 Formal Gala’s.  We were able to give women clothes, pay utilities and assist with admissions to detox.  We provided children clothing and food whose parents were struggling and getting help for their addiction.  My short term goal was to open a safe haven for women to include housing and employment for women.  That is still a goal, just one that has been set aside until I can financially afford to do it without relying solely on others to support.  God knows my heart and I know sooner than later this Dream will come true.  Our Women’s Center was dedicated to Kelly who lost her own battle to the disease. I am most certain that her legacy lives in the hearts of those who we have helped. I am confident that The Kelly Gorman Women’s Center will be revived on a level we could have never fathomed in God’s timing.

A non profit relies on others to support its Mission.  Our amazing town was devastated by Hurricane Michael in 2018.  Up until then, we were able to humbly work with our Community with providing support. We are now dealing with another catastrophe, The Covid virus.  Everything is changing.  In this Change we have made the decision to continue to help others as we can, just not under a non profit status.  Our website will stay current and we are committed to finding resources if you need help.

  I am grateful for that walk on the beach in December 2011.   I asked God to show me what I can do with the gift of sobriety.  He showed me, he gave me Faith at the Beach so I could give my heart to you.  God Speed and Big Hugs to All!

Happy New Year to all of you! I think in Life its necessary to celebrate Success, especially In Sobriety…

As I sat in the parking lot waiting to go in and take my test, I looked across the street and saw a graveyard.  Thoughts of my life raced through my mind from teenage life until now. I said out loud, Thank you God I am here. Thank you for allowing me the opportunity to overcome the chaos, confusion and dysfunction in my life that led to self medication of substances for so long….

I watch Joyce Meyer almost every morning.  Her words then came to light from a recent show.  She said that when we put the effort in and work hard to achieve something then God will pick up the slack or rather give us the help to accomplish when we ask.  Well, I sure as heck had put in studying with books, pre-tests, daily podcast that were Exam reviews, I wrote down the questions, re wrote the right answers and I truly felt I had done everything I could humanly do to pass.  I was diligent in studying for this.

 I know all too well the saying, “Faith without works is dead.” 

So, I spoke out loud to God and told him I had done everything I could do, and needed the slack picked up by him.  I had a peace about walking in and taking the test. After reviewing and going back over the questions that I questioned I finally clicked the submit button. It asked again if I was sure I wanted to submit.  I clicked yes.

The screen went blank and then came back up stating I had passed!

I can not explain the Joy that I was overcome with.  I was so excited I started to cry. I tried to hug the test proctor and she explained she could not hug me. I called my family and those close to me that were awaiting the call of pass or fail.  I was and continue to be grateful for my tribe of people.  

Some who read know me well and some of you may be reading for the first time. I don’t really speak about the past as I have so much going on in the present. I will share though why this PASS was such a huge moment in my life. I have come a hell of a long way over the past 10 years.  Actually this time 10 years ago I was preparing for my Federal sentencing from after 2 trials was found guilty for facilitating a drug crime with the use of a communications device. The journey over the past 10 years has been amazing.

My past does not define me.

Yes, I am a convicted felon but that is so minimal and something I don’t even think about. I have a Level 2 background check clearance, I am a Certified Recovery Residence Administrator, I am a Professional Interventionist, a Recovery Coach and now, I am an Addiction Counselor!

  After Hurricane Michael I moved to Pensacola. I moved for a few reasons but mainly to accomplish getting the supervised hours I needed to submit for being a Counselor. It has been a trying year to say the least. I would actually say since 2017 it has been trying. I was able to overcome and work through what I thought was defeated. Having “friends” those around me that I once considered even family trying to throw bricks for whatever reason.( I still do not know) and it does not matter because of all the efforts of them throwing bricks,  I used them for good. My foundation of neatly stacked bricks are sealed together with Faith, Forgiveness, Perseverance, Consistency, Love and Growth. I have a solid foundation that I can stand proud on. I went to church yesterday and I have to be honest besides right before Christmas, it has been a long time since I walked into the Lord’s house. The peace I felt and serenity is indescribable. I personally do not feel you have to go to church to have a relationship with God. But, when you are in a place that provides you peace when you walk in, you can not be wrong in choosing to be there.  Something resonated with me while the preacher was speaking. He said, God does his best work when we are waiting. Reflecting on this past year, I can truly agree with that statement. I am so excited about what this year holds for helping others. I am truly grateful for my sobriety and more important I am grateful for the Faith that has grown for God.

May the angels above surround you all with hugs, kisses and love!

Amy C.

 

Who is still riding on the Chaos and Confusion Carousel?

Who is being “Allowed” to stay and keep your life chaotic and confused?  Rather who are YOU ENABLING to overstep your boundaries?? 

 Do you know what the word “Boundaries” means?  My definition for boundaries is a healthy fence around my mind, heart and soul.

News Flash people, you are actually equipped with an on and off switch. 

 I know, I know…who the heck knew that even existed!!! 

This is where it began….The craziness for me around age 13 or so….

 So, the Holidays are here and what are your plans?  What has the past year looked like for you? Are you STILL on the Chaos and Confusion Carousel  going in circles with no end insight? Are you confronted daily with the horse’s ass right in front of you?

Round and Round Carousel?

Almost 20 years of riding the Carousel

With my Intervention Hat on at this moment I have to say this year working with families has been a doozy.  The magnitude of families NOT doing something because of their underlying fear of the role of caretaker being taken away… WOW. Every single excuse on the books recorded for sure.  When I speak to families and we discuss how to move forward I get a zillion questions on what if ? why then? how is that? Before I even get the chance to answer they are answering it for me. 

You see we as human beings, it is in our nature that change is uncomfortable. We don’t like change.  

Whether it is the narcissistic spouse, jerk off boss or colleagues, gossiping friends (who lets face it, if they are talking about others to your face, what are they saying behind your back), or the dramatic family…This has become your “new normal”.  

Yes, your fear of change is keeping you in chaos and confusion.  Your fear of change is keeping you miserable. Your fear of change..Well, your fear is keeping you on the carousel. 

So, the Million dollar question?  How do I get off the carousel? How can I ride my horse into the sunset and live happily ever after?  Eigh…We don’t really want to live in a fairytale do we? I mean in life it isn’t perfect but the beauty is we get the opportunity to learn, grow, fail and train every day for it!  Life is what we make it and frankly I took my horse off the carousel a while ago.

No more Carousel!

How?

Well, I have a Higher Power which is God and I surrendered. I told God, I can be a hot mess more times than not, but I am ready to do life different.  In the beginning almost 10 years ago I said it daily…Now, well maybe weekly. I have been a people pleaser for my whole adult life and part of my teen, well, heck my whole life.

People pleasing only fills us with resentments, which lead to relapse. 

Codependency is great for those we are dependent on, but no good for us. I no longer worry who likes or dislikes me. I no longer worry if I am being spoken to,or being invited to the next party. I surely don’t worry about those who speak about me. I don’t stress about how many people are my friends on social media outlets or how many like my pages.  I am focused on pleasing God. I am focusing on the next right thing, I am focusing on my girls, my family, and my career. I am grateful for what I have. I have truly lived these past few years in huge growing pains. I am settled in my soul. I know who I am and more importantly know who I am not. You have the chance right now! You do not have to wait till next year to get off the carousel of chaos and confusion, you can actually get off today, tonight, right now is when you can begin! 

Life is short and tomorrow isn’t here. Enjoy the “present” today! The gift from God.

May the angels above surround you all with kisses, hugs, and lots of love. Amy C.

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